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Managing Your Own Separation Anxiety

 You’ve probably put a lot of thought into helping your child adjust in preschool for the first time. And maybe you’ve been looking forward to your new freedom. But if you’re like most parents, you’ve found yourself wiping away a tear or two as well.

  1. Develop goodbye rituals.

They comfort you as well as your child. Smile, be positive and wave goodbye saying that you love them.

 

  1. Honour your feelings.

Your job as a mother is to be there for your child and protect him. You work hard to have a close relationship with him. Of course you feel sad when you separate, and a bit worried about whether he will be ok. Don’t be embarrassed. Nature designed you that way!

  1. Manage your own feelings privately

So that you can reassure your child that there’s nothing to be upset about. children pick up our cues. You can’t expect your child to look forward to playing with the other children in preschool if you have tears in your eyes as you say goodbye. If separating from your child triggers your own issues, use the opportunity to work them through with a counsellor.

  1. Help your child make a smooth adjustment.

Any mother gets upset when her kid wails and clutches her. But remember that most kids have some separation anxiety they have to work through, and don’t over-react. It makes things harder for your child, and for you. Don’t tell your child you’ll be in the outside in case he needs you — that just makes it hard for him to settle into the classroom. Instead, say that you will be back to pick him up at a given time.

  1. Have faith in your child, and in nature.

Nature designed children to hang onto their parents for protection, but to start exploring once they feel safe. Worrying about leaving your child at preschool is a way of saying you don’t believe he can cope. Do have faith in your child’s inner strength to rise to the occasion and grow.

  1. Get to know our staff.

Naturally it’s hard to relax if you don’t really know the person with whom you’re leaving your child. Many children will naturally feel sad at saying goodbye, and those children need comfort. Once they bond with the teacher, they will feel much more comfortable saying goodbye.) Engage in brief chats as you pick your child up, send notes of appreciation, let her know about anything big that’s going on in your child’s life.

  1. Make sure you’re a few minutes early to pick your child up at school.

Not seeing you immediately will exacerbate any anxieties she has and may panic her altogether, which will set back your own adjustment. And if your child cries when you pick her up, don’t worry. You’re seeing the stress of her having to keep it together all day. Your return signals that it’s safe to be her baby-self again. (We all have baby-selves, but as we get older our executive selves assume control in the outside world.) Make sure you spend special time every day after preschool with your big girl; she’s spent the day being as grown-up as she can, and needs the reassurance of snuggle time with you. And Mummy needs it too, to keep that connection intact.

  1. If your child is having trouble adjusting, intervene.

You’re not likely to feel happy saying goodbye to your child if he seems to be dreading preschool. First, talk to the teacher or caregiver. See if she can give him a special job when he arrives.

  1. Get organised at night for the next morning and get enough sleep.

If you’re grumpy or rushing, you’ll be impatient with your children and the whole family will feel off. It’s hard to feel good about saying goodbye and heading off into your days from a mood of emotional upheaval.

  1. Make a list of things you can’t wait to do

Make a list of things you can’t wait to do with any extra time you’ll have, like catching up at work, working out or finally tackling that big project you’ve been putting off.

  1. Make sure you give yourself at least one act of true self-nurturing every day.

Whether that’s a long bath, lunch with a friend, or reading a novel before bed for half an hour, all parents need time to recharge and be “off duty.”

  1. Get a life.

Being a parent is the second most important job you will ever have because you are responsible for the nurturing of a human being as he or she grows up. So what’s the most important job? Nurturing yourself, because growing up is never finished, and sooner or later we all have to pick up where our parents left off. You’re still growing, and it’s your job to figure out what nurtures you. Just make sure you have other things that you’re passionate about besides your children, so you aren’t living through them.

 

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