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Behavioral and emotional development

How to stop my child arguing back with me?

Here are a few strategies you can try to address arguing with your child:

Set clear boundaries and consequences: Let your child know what behavior is and is not acceptable, and follow through with consequences if they argue or disobey.

Listen actively: Give your child the opportunity to express their feelings and perspectives, and try to understand where they’re coming from.

Remain calm: Arguing back often escalates when one or both parties become emotional. By staying calm, you can model appropriate behavior for your child.

Encourage problem-solving: Instead of simply telling your child what to do, help them come up with solutions to problems on their own. This helps them develop critical thinking skills and feel more in control.

Avoid criticism: Instead of criticizing your child, focus on the behavior you want to see. For example, instead of saying “You always argue with me,” try saying “I would like it if you would speak to me respectfully.”

It’s also important to remember that children are still learning how to communicate and express themselves effectively, so be patient and consistent with your approach.