It’s important to remember that children are still learning and developing their understanding of empathy and altruism. Instead of telling her or showing her that she is selfish, try to lead by example and show her the importance of helping others. You can also try to involve her in volunteer activities or charitable events and explain how they are making a positive impact on the community. Encourage her to think about how her actions can benefit others and make sure she is recognized for her contributions. Positive reinforcement and open communication can help her understand the value of kindness and generosity.